Understanding the Impact of approaching Midlife

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How Midlife Affects Both Men and Women, and the Role of Counselling Therapy by Nikki Whitehead.

Midlife is a significant period of transition that we all go through and it can affect men and women in a variety of ways.

For women especially perimenopause and menopause can be very difficult. Perimenopause can begin in late 30s or earlier in some cases, usually by mid to late 40s, and can last up to eight years. The physical symptoms of perimenopause can vary in intensity, and some women can manage these symptoms without the need for medical intervention.

However for others the symptoms can be overwhelming, they include:

  • irregular periods
  • mood swings such as irritability, anxiety and depression
  • hot flashes, brain fog and sleep depravation
  • reduced libido or painful sex
  • other physical changes such as joint pain, headaches and weight changes.
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These changes will also affect our loved ones, especially our partners. We may be changing in ways that are confusing, or worrying. Our mood swings might lead to relationship difficulties, including lack of intimacy.

Whilst menopause and perimenopause are receiving more attention in media and it is now less of a taboo to talk about it, it is important to note that men also experience hormonal changes in midlife: a gradual loss of testosterone, which also causes fatigue, mood changes, low libido and weight shifts.

Both partners, if they are of similar age, will face these changes at around the same time, and the stress and energy dips, along with reduced libido can sometimes cause a rift between couples as they don’t understand what is happening within their own bodies, let alone what is happening to their partner.

Communicating our feelings is not always easy.

Relationships also undergo other transformations during midlife, with changes in family dynamics and friendships. Some may face the challenges of empty nest syndrome, caring for ageing parents, difficulties at work as they get older, or renegotiating the terms of long-term partnerships. These changes can influence one’s sense of belonging and self-worth.

Mindset during midlife may shift as individuals reflect on their achievements, aspirations, and future goals. It’s common to experience feelings of uncertainty, questioning one’s purpose or where they fit in the world. This introspective phase can lead to both personal growth and emotional challenges, sometimes manifesting as anxiety or low mood.

Counselling therapy offers valuable support during this life stage. Our counsellors can help you navigate your complex emotions, develop coping strategies, and foster resilience. By providing a safe and non-judgemental space, counselling enables you to explore your thoughts and feelings, improve communication within relationships, and rediscover your sense of purpose and identity.

Ultimately, midlife, while challenging, can also be an opportunity for renewal and positive change with the right support and guidance.

If you or someone you know is struggling our counsellors can help. Please complete our enquiry page, or call us on 07785 755802 and one of our counsellors will contact you to arrange a free consultation.